She Lives in You

This is my Mom, Janet Lee Pohnke.  She was a single mom raising two children. She began her journey into Motherhood on welfare without the presence of a Man, she harbored the responsibility of raising two boys on her own with the occasional help from family and friends.  To say that my relationship with her was special, would be an understatement, she was my world.  She was a woman whom always did her best to make sure that the people around her felt great, laughed a lot and that her children were safe and protected.  Through childhood I was allowed the freedom to be, whomever I wanted to be.  I was supported, nurtured, loved and as my moms success continued to blossom in her career, was showered with gifts and adoration to the point of spoiling.  Now, in my adult years, I have come to find out that this kind of enabling can be quite disabling for a child, as co-dependency can rise and the child can become needy and clingy and think that everything should be given to him (that was me :_), but, not a day goes by that I fail to appreciate the core of my mom’s intention, the intention to BE the best Mom that she could be. 

In my early 20’s, she passed away after a long bout with Cancer.  For me, a piece of my world instantly vanished and something even more profound then her physical presence was gained …. I was filled with the guidance of her soul, to explore a deeper part of our relationship that existed beyond the patterns of our social conditioning.  I gave my first speech about connection at her funeral, I wrote my first song, a re-make of the String Cheese Incident Song “Smile” for the same event.  I traveled and felt her spirit guiding me and would recognize her soul’s guiding presence in the form of feathers, which I would receive in places birds just do not travel, like INSIDE of airplanes.  Now, 15 years after her passing I still feel the presence of the part of her that was here to guide me, the part that her humanness could not express, and I hold that deep wisdom dear to my heart and allow it to be a light on my path of liberation.  The wisdom that only exists in the eyes of a Mother.

To all of my beloved Humans out there that are traveling today without the physical presence of their beloved mother, I invite you to look deep inside and feel her presence with you fully, she is there, guiding your every step, sending you strength and wisdom with each and every breath, offering her deepest love and nurturing so that you will spend the rest of your life smiling, for that is all she every really wanted. 

If sadness arises over the loss, feel it, dive into it, share it, but then again, look inside .... she IS .... Still Alive :-)

I Love you!

Waking Up With A Smile!

I feel so grateful to have a partner that I can now wake up to with a smile. Ask me 3 years ago or even a year ago and I would have not been able to tell you the same but now I truly believe that "Life is much better SHARED." The game is to go deep inside and realize the right partner for YOU, not for your patterns. The first thing is to see the patterns of the Partners that keep coming in that DO NOT WORK. The partner of your dreams might be someone whom you could never imagine because we tend to see the world through the eyes of a ROM COM, where everything is perfect, passionate and FOREVER. A REAL relationship is in the NOW, and this NOW is forever and the now changes, and there are storms, there are heavy currents, there are blissful flights and passionate nights, but the PARTNER of our dreams is the one, whom you ENJOY THE RIDE, whom you can yell, scream and fight from a place of love and awareness and at the end of the day when all is said and done, you can wipe the slate clean with LOVE and wake up the next day again with a SMILE!


So, short advise, GET CLEAR beyond the FORM, shiz, get clear with the FORM as well, but that can be sculpted with the mind and will fade in time. Find out what you want, what you need and what you want to give. GIve Tony Robbins - Peak Performance Strategist & Author (The Ultimate Relationship) as spin, may sound cheesy but IT WORKS, because HE WORKS YOU and like any great game in life, the work is the foundation, so be ready to take a deep look in the mirror and watch all the shit patterns you have designed yourself around come right to the forefront of your mind. THen, as the fire burns and your true insanity comes to the surface, you will be met with the opportunity to GROW and you will then find that THAT GROWTH is the reason why you are in the relationship in the first place. BE BRAVE, THE TIME IS NOW!


To my beloved partner Mai Segev, thank you for inspiring these words...


Daniel Tyler Pohnke